Why love always wins.

The thing that no one tells you as the white tulle cascades on your wedding day is this;

Marriage is hard.

Now don't get me wrong; being married to Clint is the best thing that has ever happened to me.  Honestly, it is and I love him more than I ever thought I could love someone.  But I'd be straight lying to you if I told you that our marriage is always a walk in the park, because there are days when marriage is just not easy. 

  When you commit to your spouse that day you say {I Do}, you're committing to making it work.  You're commiting to finding the balance to living a life that works for both of you.  You're comitting to encouraging them when you won't feel like it and cheering them on when you wish maybe they'd be cheering for you.

You're committing to giving 100% and sometimes that can be hard.

I read a portion from Colossians and Matthew at my cousin's wedding last fall in Minnesota.  The verse from Colossians reminded me of Lindsay since she has this verse hung in her closet - words that remind her to dress herself in God's love and desires, rather than trends.  But at the wedding after the pastor spoke about the verse, it took on a whole different meaning.

 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
She said that as Minnesotan's, they know something about layering for the cold and hard weather.  That when you get dressed in Minnesota, you dress in layers and those layers are to protect you.

God's intentions for us in marriage are no different.  When the cold, hard days roll around - we need to have layers to help us get through them.  Compassion for mistakes.  Kindness when we only want to shoot hard eyes.  Humility when we've done wrong and gentleness when our spouse has.  And patience - gosh, each spouse in a marriage needs a wardrobe of patience....

And then we add on the accessory of forgiveness - because

And over everything - we put on love.  Because love is the protective layer.  Love is like the parka that you wear out into the blizzard, and it shields you from the harsh winds, and the harsh words, and the wear.  Love overlooks, and love understands and love makes efforts worthwhile.

And while marriage is hard sometimes - it is worth it. 

It is worth it over and over and over, because love, well...

Love always wins.


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